Poster from Patti Digh’s recent Newsletter
Patti Digh, amazing author and speaker, recently asked in her latest newsletter, “why is it so much easier to say yes to other people than to ourselves?" Next, she grants us permission to skip over the why, and to proceed directly to the "practice of saying yes to ourselves”.
Years ago, I engaged in a workshop about self empowerment which initiated a life changing awareness for me when I heard a statement that went something like this; If you can't say “no", than you really don't know how to say "yes". That statement made such a huge impression on me and continues to remind me of the importance of being grounded in my power, allowing me to know how to really say “YES”. More imporantly, it has taught me how to say “no” without having to make excuses or feel I have to explain myself.
I was at a women's gathering recently where the speaker's message was, "No more excuses", I loved how she gave examples on how we can graciously say “no" to others, and “yes" to ourselves. A few of her examples went something like this:
I am so honored that you have thought of me to volunteer my time to offer workshops for your organization, however, I am not available to help. Your organization has such a great following, I’m sure you will find someone who is available to volunteer.
Thank you for thinking of me to help stuff 1000 envelopes for your next charity drive, unfortunately, my schedule is full at this time, I know your organization does amazing things for so many people, and I am sure you will find someone else who is available to help.
So, you see the speaker’s formula. Express appreciation. Say no. Conclude with a positive statement. It’s that easy.
Oh, it feels to good to genuinely say "NO" without feeling the need to make excuses. It opens space for us, without room for guilt.
I can still remember the excitement bubbling up in my body when the speaker offered that formula. It felt so freeing, so empowering. I was actually looking forward to my next opportunity to design my own amazing sentence that would set me free and allow me to be loyal to myself.
Patti invites us to say, “yes" to ourselves for 37 days. “ See what if feels like to honor yourself, your energy, your need for space and quiet, and whatever you long for. Practice saying "no" without apology in order to say "yes" with great enthusiasm to yourself."
What are you going to create for yourself today, by saying, "yes" to you?
Read more about Patti Digh and why she chose 37 days.